by Tracy Ley 

At some points in your life, you will come across people who are full of negativity and bad vibes. You question yourself if it is still worth your time and energy to remain friends with them. There are probably some toxic persons in there who are undermining your confidence, betraying your trust and spreading negativity and lies like wildfire. You need to get rid of them ASAP if you know what’s good for you.

So what makes a toxic person? Here are 7 points to consider: 

Negative mindset

These people spread negativity like a contagious disease. These are the people who like to complain about the simplest things, who are always anxious, pessimistic and depressed. Being around someone who is always negative can be absolutely draining and tiring. 

Lacking of compassion and empathy 

You do not want these kinds of people in your inner circle for the simple reason that they are not capable of lending a sympathetic ear or understanding your problems when you need them to be around. These people have personality problems and display narcissistic tendencies. 


Some friends will swear secrecy when you tell them something confidential. It’s absolutely annoying when you find out that your secret has been told to other people. People who can’t be trusted with small things are the kind of toxic people you don’t want to be associated with. Like when is it okay for your “so called” trusted friend to tell your business to someone else? Answer is, it is never okay! 

Manipulation and Exploitation 

Manipulative friends know how to extract information so that they can use it against you. They will exploit your generosity and will rarely give anything in return. They know what you like, what makes you happy, and what you think is funny, but the difference is that they use this information as part of a hidden agenda.


Playing the victim 

These people are the experts in the blame game. They never take ownership of their own shortcomings or mistakes. They are the victim and it is never their fault. 


Yes, we do get envious from time to time but it doesn’t give you the right to be an awful person. To the envious person, the grass Is always greener on the other side. Even when something great happens to envious people, they don’t get any satisfaction from it. This is because they tend to compare their lives all the time and measure their fortune against the world when they should be deriving their satisfaction from within. 


Oftentimes I get judged by someone who do not have their acts together. At the end of the day, do I care? No! Judgmental people are quick to to tell you exactly what is cool and what is not. They have a way of taking the thing you’re most passionate about and making you feel terrible about them. Instead of appreciating and learning from people who are different from them, judgmental people look down on others.

Remember, a positive life is a happy life. So to the toxic people in our lives:yeah, #byefelicia.



Beauty expert and blogger Tracy Ley aka “Ms. Tracy” is Illustrado’s resident sassy lioness. In this issue, she offers 7 key insights on what women should bear in mind about life. Keep up with her sassy shenanigans via her FB page, or on Instagram: @mstracyleyofficial


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