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Filipino Norway: My Pinoy Life in Kjeller with Lit Nacabuan
Since when have you been staying there? Can you recount why and how you moved there?

I moved here to Norway in 2013 together with my four friends. We came as nurses from Aklan Cooperative Mission Hospital. I recall that an agency was looking for workers in Norway, and I always wanted to go abroad and work for a better salary, so I jumped at the opportunity right away.

Tell us about where you live. What is the place famous for? Are there any notable landmarks, sites, etc. What do you like and not like about living there?

I currently live in Kjeller, a village located near Lillestrøm in the municipality of Skedsmo. It’s located 25 kilometers north-east of Oslo (Oslo is the capital of Norway). Kjeller is famous for its airport as the world oldest airport with an air battalion, international flight academy and aircraft production. It’s home to the biggest annual airshow in the country too! I love it here because it’s so peaceful. There’s no pollution, no crime, and you can enjoy all four seasons of the year. The only catch is that everything here is expensive.

Tell us about your life there. What do you do for a living? What do you do for relaxation? Describe a typical week. What’s the typical lifestyle over there?

My life here is quite active. Besides working weekly, I have a Filipino show band, D’Goodvibes, and we play for different events during different occasions. I’m also a photographer specializing in portraits, events and landscapes. Each year, I go on a hiking trip with my colleague. We even reached the country’s higest peak, Galdhøpiggen. I’m a music enthusiast, so I also jump at the opportunity to see my favorite bands perform at concerts. When I’m free, I play table tennis, go fishing, listen to music or work in a nursing home. A typical lifestyle here involves working throughout the week, and by Friday or Saturday, go out for a drink and have fun with family and friends.

What are the main cultural differences between there and the Philippines?

Filipino culture has a tighter focus on family relationships compared to the people here. They send money to their family in the Philippines and loved ones. Norwegians are also more independent at an early age, and when they land a job, they perform differently than us Filipinos. Norwegian laws are strict, and I admire the people for being law abiding citizens and well-mannered people. For example, cars slow down when the drivers see someone crossing the street (which is quite the opposite than what we’re used to in the Philippines).

How were you able to adjust to the culture? Did you pick up anything new (practices, life lessons, etc). Do you still observe Filipino customs and traditions?

We Filipinos are famous for being one of the most widespread nationalities around the world. I just did what everyone else did and put my mind towards adjustment. The culture here wasn’t extremely different from what I’m used to, but I eventually had to abide by the laws of this country and practice being independent more often (especially since I lived alone). I’ve always been a fan of Viking culture and history, and my appreciation for it helped me adjust here faster.

I love doing things on my own but being in a foreign country is a different story. People here like to have their space and privacy (while also being approachable). One thing I learned here is that you have to speak out of you want to address something. People here will speak directly if you have done good or bad here. They don’t tolerate if things go the other way. I also learned that, when going to gatherings on occasion, we as guests have to bring alcoholic drinks as a form of contribution. Along the way, I’ve taught myself photography. My friends used to say “ano na naman yan, picture picture na naman?” When we were walking as I was always behind taking photos of something.

I still observe and practice Filipino customs and traditions here. I love cooking native Pinoy dishes as nothing beats “kanin at ulam’. Norwegians eat a lot of bread and potatoes. I do the same but not often. Each year, we still celebreate Christmas and new year like it was in the Philippines. If you’re the ninong or ninang, then you are bound to give gifts and pamasko to your inaanak.

What advice would you give to Filipinos who want to move there? Give at least 3 tips.

To my fellow kababayans who want to move here, my first tip is to be mentally, emotionally and physically prepared for the country. Being away from our loved ones is one of the worst feelings to experience. A lot of people have depression here, especially during the winter. I had winter depression every year up until now as I still live alone. The environment is also difficult to deal with here, so being physically fit is a must. This country has four seasons, and people tend to get sick in the winter.

My second tip is to learn the language thoroughly as a language certification is required for you to get a job. I was a licensed nurse in the Philippines, but it’s not credited here in Norway. The country has high standards with education and work, so almost everyone here is a professional. Because of tax, education is free.

Norway has four seasons (summer, spring, autumn and winter). Each season differs also in temperature and clothing requirements, so be prepared! There is a famous saying here “Det finnes ikke dårlig vær, bare dårlig klær!” which translates to “There is no bad weather, only bad clothes!”

How about Filipinos who want to travel there? Also give 3 tips.

To my fellow kababayans who want to travel her, I’m sure you’ll enjoy Norway! Here ae some tips to help you out:
1. Do as much research as you can. It’s always good to be prepared before going to a country. One essential thing to know is which season you are going in, in order to prepare the right clothing for yourself. Spring is from March to May, summer is from June to August, autumn is from September to November and winter is from December to February.
2. Know which part of the country you’re going to and which sights to see. Norway has lots of mountains, valleys, waterfalls and lakes that attract tourists from all around the world. Travelling in Oslo will show you famous landmarks like the palace, where the king and queen reside, Vigelands park (the nude sculpture park) and the Viking Ship Museum. Along the coasts of the Norwegian peninsula, lighthouses are go to spots for tourists. One of them is the Lindesnes Fyr (Lindesnes lighthouse), which stands at the southernmost part of the country. Famous hiking spots and landscapes dot the west and northern areas of the country, like Preikestolen, Besseggen, Romsdalsseggen, Trollstigen, Trolltunga, Kjeragbolten, Galdøpiggen, Rondane and the famous Lofoten Islands. Don’t forget the Aurora Borealis (northern lights), which are visible during winter season up north.
3. Norway is one of the most expensive countries to travel to and live in. Coming from the Philippines, you might be shocked to know how expensive ordinary food is. Instead of staying at an expensive hotel, try booking an Airbnb. It’s also good to buy food and drink from grocery stores and prepare your own meals (like sandwiches) for tours.
What’s your message to Filipinos across the world?

As an OFW, I know we have to sacrifice, but we only live once, so enjoy life! Do what you love and lova what you do. Success comes through the things we love and pursue. Don’t let people tell you how to live your life and let go of the things that drag you down, cheers!

ADDITIONAL: can you share any links to useful online resources that can help future travelers with your host country? Example: tourism office, tourist destinations and more. Please include the link to the Philippine Embassy or Consulate General

Here are some important links you can visit when traveling to Norway. It features almost all the information needed upon visiting this country.

https://www.visitoslo.com

https://www.visitnorway.no

https://en.visitbergen.com

https://visittrondheim.no

https://lofoten.info/lofoten

https://www.norway-lights.com/#

https://www.philembassy.no

https://english.dnt.no

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August 29, 2019
Filipino in Sweden: My Pinoy Life in Stockholm

Filipinos in Sweden

Home is where you heart is. For Cecille Basco-Östlund, this couldn’t be truer as she found not only a home, but a lifelong love in Sweden.

City:

Stockholm, Sweden

Since when have you been staying there? Can you recount briefly why you moved there?

I have been living, for a year now, in Stockholm and in Sweden since 2007. I work for a Swedish multinational company. I started with them in the Philippines in 2000 and was assigned to Shanghai for three years in 2004. After China, a job in Gothenburg, Sweden seemed like a good next step for me, so I relocated. Three years on in that post, I moved to the company’s headquarters in Stockholm. It’s easy to think that all the moving was because of the job, but the truth is I am in Stockholm because this is where I found love. All the steps that I took to get here were simply following a greater plan.

In 2005 while in Shanghai, I met a Stockholm-based Swedish guy online. We did not think we would ever meet in person and I had no idea that my next assignment would be in Sweden. As fate would have it, we did meet when I was in Gothenburg for interviews, 14 months after we started talking online. For three years, we commuted between Gothenburg and Stockholm, a 500 kilometer and 3-hour train distance, to see each other. In November 2010, in front of families and friends, we got married in Manila.

Tell us about your host city/country

Stockholm is a beautiful city. Spring and summer are fantastic. They make up for the darkness and coldness of winter. You can easily see the effects the weather has on people. During the winter, people tend to keep to themselves staying mostly indoors, lighting lots of candles to make their homes cozy. As soon as you can wear flip-flops again (for some who can’t wait, this happens even if the temperature is just above 10 degrees Celsius) the atmosphere changes to one that is festive. The restaurants start putting tables outside and people gather with friends and families where they can expose themselves to as much sunshine as possible.

The most famous landmark in Stockholm is probably the city hall which faces Lake Mälaren. This is also where the Nobel Prizes are awarded every 10^th of December (all Nobel prizes are awarded in Stockholm, except for the peace prize which is awarded in Oslo, Norway). My favorite place in Stockholm is the old town or “Gamla Stan.” I can spend hours sitting on a bench in the town square simply admiring the old buildings around and watching people passing by.

What do you there do for a living?

I work for SCA (Svenska Cellulosa Aktiebolaget) as head of Group Business Control. SCA is a hygiene, forest and packaging company operating globally and employing some 45,000 people. I am proud of working for SCA because sustainability and care for people and the environment are integrated into how it operates.

Is there a Filipino community there?

There are a few organizations listed at the Philippine Embassy in Stockholm website, but I have not been able to participate in any of them yet. There are about 13,000 Filipinos living in the whole of Sweden.

I think Asians in general are treated well here. The country’s society is based on people working and I think Asians are perceived to have good work ethics. Some people also think that Asians assimilate relatively easier.
Many Swedes are not very familiar with the Philippines. If I ask someone new what they know of the Philippines, they would say “not much except Imelda’s shoes and the eruption of Mount Pinatubo.” That’s my cue to talk about our beautiful beaches and the warmth and friendliness of Filipinos.

Tell us about your life there.

Moving to a new country is always a challenge as you learn how things work. Settling in Sweden was relatively easier for me compared to how I did in China mainly because of the language. Swedes speak English very well so asking for directions, eating out, locating things or shopping is fairly straightforward. The flipside of that is that my spoken Swedish has not really progressed as I would have wished, as it is always so easy to switch to English.

My husband and I like to travel and in the years that I have been in Sweden, we have managed to visit a lot of different places both in Scandinavia and in continental Europe. If we usually don’t fly into city break locations; we like to take the car and go on road trips.

The traffic situation is different from how it is in Manila. I remember a taxi ride from the airport on my first time here. The driver warned me that it was rush hour, so I was mentally prepared for heavy traffic on the motorway. After a while, and as we continued to drive as fast as the speed limit allowed, I asked the driver about the rush hour. He pointed to the other vehicles and said that if it was not rush hour, there would hardly be any other vehicle on the road.

I also appreciate that a lot of information can be found online. Whatever you want to do, chances are, you can do a large part of planning via the Internet. Once, I typed in my name on a people finder website and saw that not only were my address with a map and a street view photo of my living room window displayed, but also my phone numbers and my birthday for everyone to see. I was so spooked that I immediately called my then boyfriend. He said, “Welcome to Sweden!”

What I still find difficult though, is adjusting to the darkness during winter. I have learned to cope with the cold by dressing appropriately, but the short daytime for an extended period is tough. On the other hand, when it is so sunny, the Filipino in me wants to walk around under an umbrella. Swedes don’t do this and they think it’s strange when I always try to find shade under which I could sit.

What cultural practices/behaviors have you acquired from your host country? Do you still observe Filipino customs and traditions?

My in-laws practice a lot of traditions. Herring is a big thing in Sweden and you will find it on the table in a lot of occasions; whether it is mid-summer or Christmas. Easter is celebrated by exchanging colorfully decorated Easter eggs filled with candies and other goodies. Real spruce trees are decorated for Christmas.

I have learned to eat and like traditional Swedish food; some of which you eat with lingon berries. Thursday is pea soup and pancake day. Most restaurants serve these for lunch. You start with a bowl of pea soup and then you finish with some pancakes topped with whipped cream and strawberry jam.

For our wedding, while we had a traditional Catholic ceremony, we also combined some Swedish traditions. My husband’s whole family did the pamamanhikan, bringing gifts to my family and had lunch at our home a few days before the wedding. On the other hand, we also practiced the Swedish tradition of “morgon gåva” or morning gift where the groom presents a gift to the bride the morning after their wedding.

There are two things though that I have refused to adapt to at home: square pillows and eating with a fork and knife. The Swedes use square pillows which I can never get used to. I also eat with a spoon and fork at home and with knife and fork elsewhere. It amazes my husband how I can cut my food with my spoon and fork.

Your message to Filipinos across the globe –

It is not easy to be far away from home. Still, regardless of what brought you to where you are now, I believe that it is an opportunity to enjoy life, to learn and to grow. It is our humanity, not our nationality, which matters when we reach out to people and find the special connections and build relationships that will last a lifetime.

Each place I have lived in has become a part of me. My experiences have shaped the kind of Filipino I am today. I am proud of my heritage but I am also here looking out for opportunities to make myself a better person everyday.

Thank you for reading snippets of my life in Stockholm. I hope that you are having a good Pinoy life wherever in the world you are.

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September 27, 2017
JR Bustamante: Raising Kids Long Distance

By JR Bustamante

Congratulations, you got the job! Now, you can’t wait to start on your new occupation abroad. Excitedly, you prepare for your trip: pack your bags, fix your papers, and finalize all the government requirements. When all the nitty gritty of endorsements and arrangements are done, you prepare your big despedida with family and close friends. The next day, you pick up your tickets and go.

During the long wait at the airport, before you board your plane, the moment of truth hits you like a ton of bricks. Excitement turns to sadness when you realize that you will be many miles away from your loved ones, especially from your young child, for a long time. That’s when you experience one of the loneliest moments in your life.

Your two-year-old boy, who hasn’t the slightest idea of what you are about to do and how long you will be gone, will be growing up without you around. You won’t be able to see him getting the proper care he needs, to be around when he needs someone to run to for help, to give him a hug when he is sad, to kiss his pain away when he falls off his bike. You won’t be able to run to him and reassure him that everything will be alright when he calls for you after a nightmare. You won’t be around to check if he’s cold at night or cheer him up when he is down. These are precious moments that you will miss with your kids, perhaps even haunt you a couple of years later as an Overseas Filipino (OF).

These are heart-wrenching realities of what OFs have to face when they leave their children to work abroad. Being away from their kids for at least two years, they will miss celebrating their children’s growth milestones or simply being involved in their children’s lives. The worse feeling they can experience is when their children do not miss their absence anymore and they are greeted with indifference when they return home. When they see each other at least once a year, it would be awkward like they were strangers to each other.

It is an emotional roller coaster for the OFs. Inasmuch as the idea of working in a foreign country for higher income is the peak of their excitement. The downside of the adventure is their lack of involvement in the lives of their children. How will the absence of a parent affect the kids in their growing years? This is a question that OFWs worry about all the time. Will future consequences of their absence justify their goal of wanting to provide a better life for their kids?

There are basically two options to choose from: either take the child with you or leave them with people you trust. Due to financial considerations, few OFs are able to take the first route. And those who are fortunate enough to able to take their children with them, will most often than not, have to leave them for awhile to take care of settling down in the new country – like finding proper accommodations for the family, perhaps a school for the kids and ensuring that basic needs are ready for when the kids arrive.

If you’re one of those who would have to leave your kids behind indefinitely, the comfort and security provided by your extended family will be very critical at this point in your life. Being surrounded by lola, lolo, titos and titas, will help ease the situation for you and your child.

If you have children below the age of 10, it is always ideal to hire help to provide personal attention to your children’s needs, without overburdening the family you have left behind. Avoid imposing the care of your kids on relatives, unless they volunteer. Look around way in advance for a helper you feel comfortable with to take care of your children while you are many, many miles away. If you have any doubts about the person you are hiring, don’t settle. Give yourself the time to find the right one for your kids.

If your finances allow, your child can also come and stay with you during summer breaks, and you can also come home to the Philippines during your own vacations so you can spend more time with your child, twice a year.

Remember to communicate on a regular basis so you can maintain a strong relationship. Find out how their days go, and keep yourself updated on their achievements or problems. Congratulate them on good performance at school. Console them during low times. Wish them luck on upcoming tests. Make it a point to get involved in your child’s life even if you are far away.

Tell them how much you miss them and how you always think about them. Keep reassuring them of your love. Explain the whole situation, how all this hard work is for them to have a better life, that you need understanding and moral support to keep you going.

These are just ideas to help ease the pain of being away from your loved ones for a long stretches of time and lessen the stress of worrying about your children while you are far away.

The final decision to work abroad is not an easy road to take, especially for those who have growing children. It may be the best – or even the only solution – for the disintegrating family income to address the ever rising cost of living. This road is paved with guilt, risks, and regrets from time to time. The price to pay is steep. Caught between the devil and the deep blue sea, OFs often don’t have a choice anymore. But knowing the Pinoy’s oh-so practical and resilient nature, Filipinos will always make the best of a non-ideal situation.

For being a Filipino is being a survivor.

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April 10, 2017
Filipinos in Denmark: My Pinoy Life in Copenhagen

Christina Aparente

Filipinos in Denmark: My Pinoy Life in Copenhagen

CHRISTINA APARENTE

Your City: Copenhagen, Denmark

Since when have you been living there? Can you recount briefly why you moved there?

Before moving to Denmark in July 2007, I lived as a nurse in London for eight years. At that time, I was in a relationship with my Danish boyfriend – now husband, Michael – who I met while on a holiday in Boracay. We maintained a long distance relationship for a time, as he was still living in Copenhagen. We finally tied the knot in 2005. As soon as that had sunk in, we both knew it was only a matter of time until one of us had to move, and off to Denmark I went!

Tell us something about your host city/country.

Denmark is home to Hans Christian Andersen, who authored the classic, “The Little Mermaid.” The statue of Denmark’s “Beloved Daughter” stands in the harbor of Copenhagen and is not only the most famous attraction in the country’s capital but also now the national landmark.

Historically, the Danes came from a line of some of the most fearsome Viking sailors of the pre-medieval ages. With its rich history, Copenhagen has retained the grandeur of its fine olden day architectural structures dating back to the reign of the monarchs.

Today, Denmark has a population of approximately 5 million. Bicycles are favored over buses, trains and subway systems as a means of public transportation. Denmark experiences cool summers and mild-to-moderate winters. Recently though, heavy winters have been common, with temperatures as low as -20 degrees in some parts of the country.

Coupled with a beautiful harbor, Copenhagen’s places of interest include the long, cobble-stoned pedestrian shopping street called Strøget, which is a huge treat for shoppers during Christmas season. Copenhagen is also famous for its amusement park, Tivoli, which is located at the heart of the city. One of the oldest of its kind, Tivoli inspired Walt Disney, shaping his vision for what was later to become Disneyland. While in town, must-try delicacies include Danish pastries, bacon, Lurpak butter and yes, the famous, Carlsberg beer.

What do you do for a living?

Since moving, I have been working as a full time surgical nurse at Rigs Hospital, one of the largest medical facilities in the country. There are not many Filipinos working here – you could probably count them with your fingers – and there are not much foreigners either. Elsewhere, however, is another matter entirely.

Is there a Filipino community there?

There are about 8,000 Filipinos in Denmark, along with a few organizations that cater to them. One of the biggest, the FAD (Filipino Association in DK), spearheads annual events like the Barrio Fiesta, which provides wholesome entertainment, food stalls featuring Filipino delicacies, and fun activities for all ages. They also organize Philippine Independence day celebration parties every year. I join the activities once in a while, when my schedule permits.

Tell us about your life there.

I could best describe my life in Denmark as a bittersweet chocolate bar; it has its moments, as well as its drawbacks. Starting out and getting over the language barrier, for one, was a struggle. It’s no surprise that landing a job was problem for me, too. Imagine attempting to immerse yourself with people who speak a language totally different from yours. One should be mentally prepared for the battle before entering the country. It is probably one of the most difficult languages in the world to learn! Most of my classmates in the language school said so (they come from all over the world). Them of course, there’s the problem of landing a job due to the language barrier. Mind you, it will take years for one to become fluent. Four years maybe is acceptable for the gifted ones. It’s really tough!

I started working after my first year of learning the language. I had a probationary job at one of the hospitals in the city. I took the plunge, thinking that it would give me the advantage of assimilating into the society faster. It did help, but it also meant being put under an enormous amount of stress. I was totally out of my comfort zone, away from good old English-speaking London. Now that’s definitely something I never thought I could do – all in the name of love.

Living in London before moving to DK gave me an edge when it came to adjusting to the Danish system and culture. Keeping an open mind and being patient and understanding helped me cope. It may have taken me three and a half years to accomplish, but I have finally settled.

Life here is a bit more laid-back than it is in London. It’s cozier, cleaner and the crime rate is much lower too. What I like most about this place is being able to cycle or walk back home after a night out with friends – I don’t have to worry about someone mugging me on the streets.

During spring and summertime, I love going out on fishing trips and cycling around the city and the outskirts with my friends. We visit a lot of beautiful beaches too, but the frigid water temperatures keep me from swimming. I also enjoy going to bars with my friends in the evenings, and spending some “me-time” at fitness clubs. Sometimes I go and visit my Filipino friends to cook Filipino food and sing karaoke.

I am also interested in traveling. I love touring around Europe and America, and I’d love to visit countries I haven’t gone to yet. We have six weeks of vacation here in Denmark, too. What’s there not to love?

I have also discovered my latest passion, diving – though I’m not too keen on diving in the icy waters of Scandinavia. I’m already looking forward to my next planned vacation in Florida this August. I’m also looking forward to my Philippine dive this Christmas. I’ll be able to see my family and embrace the Philippine seas once more. There is definitely no place like home!

What cultural practices/behaviors have you acquired from your host country?

I became a staunch abider of traffic regulations. I found myself steering clear of the occasional slip-up – hitting the accelerator on a red light, especially when there are no cars at all. I have also taken to drinking beer with my meals. It’s the Coke to our Filipino dishes. I quite like it. I have also learned to pay back every single penny owed – even if it’s just one Peso. Nothing, no matter how small, should be ignored.

Despite being surrounded by the Danish community, we still preserve important Filipino customs here like the proper observation of Lent and Easter, and Sunday Mass attendance. In keeping with the close-knit relationships Filipinos share with their families, I stay in touch with my relatives in Manila and General Santos City through phone and email.

Your message/greeting to Filipinos across the globe –

I would like to congratulate those Filipinos who survived the initial difficulties of settling in a new country. You all deserve a pat on the back for not considering quitting an option.On the other hand, for those of you starting out, don’t scare yourselves too much. If anything, I believe that people of different nations, regardless of color, creed and language can live together peacefully through shared compassion and understanding.

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February 12, 2017
Pinoy+

By Nicholo Jallores

The Global Pinoy.
The New Mestizo.
The Half Filipino, Half something-something.
Illustrado examines the new generation of mixed-race Filipinos and finds that the colonial rules no longer apply.

Ode to the New Yorker in Tondo, this is not. Perish the thought of adding to the tiresome and laborious Purebloods vs. Half-Breeds debate. Far be it from a media entity named Illustrado to dig a deeper divide between the indio and the mestizo– it is our stand that the worth of a Filipino cannot be compartmentalized to brown and white. Fact: the Philippines has been a melting pot of cultures since time beyond memorial, and this is readily evident in the Filipino gene pool. We are a tapestry of colors, mindsets and perspectives. The mestizo’s and mestiza’s are so 1800’s – revenants from a time when colonial mentality haunted our cultural zeitgeist. It’s time to transcend the stereotype.

What Purity?

The Spaniards landed on the Philippine shores in 1521 and proceeded to systematically reengineer the Filipino identity on a cellular level. Religion played a pivotal role in Spain’s campaign to define Juan and Maria, but the cultural transference was made even more absolute by the Spanish Government’s progressive policy on interracial coupling. Unlike the British and the Dutch who implemented strict anti-miscegenation policies in their colonies, the Spanish government actually encouraged the mixing of the races.

However, a close examination of our history reveals that the diverse nature of the Filipino identity predates the Spanish occupation. Trade relations with neighboring nations such as Malaysia, China, and India — which flourished as early as the 1300’s — also resulted in cultural transference. Fast-forward to the 20th century and you have the Americans and the Japanese adding their heritage to the mix.

The 100% pure Filipino is not as common as most people think. Purity is a rarity. You would be hard-pressed to find anyone who could directly trace his lineage to the Callao man of Cagayan, or the Tabon man of Palawan. Saying that a Filipino-American is 50% Filipino and 50% American is inaccurate and misleading. In the same vein, one cannot also simplistically quantify mindsets as X amount local and Y amount foreign – not without dipping his foot into xenocentrism. It would be easier to just accept impurity. As they say, the more the merrier.

The New Breed of Mixed-Breed

Gone are the days of the lionized tisoy’s and tisay’s, and the Kikay’s of Tondo who allow Western perspectives to override their local sensibilities. In the matter of adopting cultures, globalization has taken the place of colonization. We are in a time where ideas are shared rather than enforced, and differing belief systems are synergized without one having to cannibalize the other. This is evident in the new generation of mixed-race Filipinos, who manage to find the balance between celebrating their ethnicity and embracing foreign ideologies.

Singer Cassie Ventura photo from cassieventura.com

Glee’s Darren Criss – Photo from his Facebook Page

In an interview for the book Blended Nation: Portraits and Interviews of Mixed Race America, Luzviminda Carpenter, an American citizen of Filipino and African American descent professed, “I identify as Filipina and black. I do this to give honor to the struggles both my Filipina mother and my black father have had to endure. I give respect by learning both heritages and never denying one or the other.” She goes on to state that her identity is heavily influenced by both the society and her parents, and that the two factors intersect to make her the woman that she is today.

Rob Schneider – photo from Rob Schneider’s Facebook page

When asked about how he got to be so funny, Rob Schneider, world famous comedian and star of blockbuster hits such as Deuce Bigalow and The Hot Chick, revealed that his sense of humor is deeply rooted in his multicultural upbringing. “My mom being Filipino and my dad being Jewish, it was a good mix. So, we had good laughing people,” claimed Schneider, in an interview with The Filipino Reporter. “When you’re Filipino, as soon as you’re done eating, you’re laughing. Usually, they’re laughing while they’re eating. It was a great place to practice.”

Hailee Steinfeld – Photo Facebook Page

Touted by American film critics as Hollywood’s Next Big Thing, Hailee Steinfeld dazzled the world with her top-notch, Oscar-nominated performance as Mattie Ross in the 2010 Coen Brother’s film True Grit. In an interview with the Manila Bulletin, Steinfeld talked about her close relationship with her mother Cheri Domasin, a former interior designer from Bohol. “My mom and I are so close. She travels the world with me and I could not do what I am doing without her by my side.” She also revealed her pride in identifying with the Filipino community. “I found that the best thing when I am in a group of people, I would have one or two people come up to me and say, ‘You are Filipino! I am Filipino, too.’ And I am like ‘Yes, this is awesome!’ So it is sort of this one thing that connected me with many people that I find is really interesting.”

Dreamgirls’ Sharon Leal – Photo from her Facebook Page

Pinoy+
Mixed-race Filipinos and even OFW’s often struggle to find the sweet spot between adopting the prevalent mindsets of their host countries and holding on to their Filipino heritage. To a disorganized mind, one thing will have to give. But the truly global Pinoy, the world-class Filipino, the Illustrado doesn’t have to make such a choice. He understands the value in diversity in viewpoints and opinions, and thereby veers away from any archaic notions that risk marginalizing his identity. He will forever be a child of the Philippines, but he is a man of the world.

Say goodbye to Tisoy, Tisay, and Kikay.

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Model Paul Kieffer – Photo by Eros Goze

PAUL KIEFER
Pinoy + Slovak, German, French, Polish, and Lithuanian

Even with Slovak, German, French, Polish, Lithuanian blood in my system, it seems my Filipino side is the most dominant. I think the Filipino thing that stands out in me the most is that I love rice! It’s actually quite funny but I can’t live without it. I think after the year 2013 I have never felt so close to my Filipino nationality than I do now. I spent 4 months in the Philippines last year after 20 years abroad and I really got the sense of who I really am and where I come from. Filipinos really treasure their families and stick together through the hard times. The country has been through so many calamities. After the super typhoon and earthquake you could really see how resilient and strong the Filipino spirit is. It’s amazing and I can only hope I have also been blessed with these great characteristics of a Filipino. I love the Filipino people and I’m proud to be a Filipino too!

P.S. The one Filipino trait that is not in me, I must add, is that I would never eat balut!

Shaimaa Hassoun by Qash Abbas

SHAIMA HASSOUN
Pinoy + American and Iraqi

Being an American of mixed Iraqi-Filipino ethnicity, I consider myself a global citizen with an international outlook. I have great pride and love for my roots, cultures, traditions, and fellow compatriots; this is what makes up who I am as an individual. I am half yet also a wholehearted Filipina!

KATRINA ILMING
Pinoy + Austrian
I’m definitely more Filipino now than I was a year ago because I’ve been living here for that long. I’ve adapted to the Metro Manila traffic (which still drives me nuts, but not as much as before) and eat rice a LOT. I’m closer to my family now (which is really important in Filipino culture) and I’ve learned how to commute and speak Tagalog (semi-fluently)! Lastly, I’m alright with losing my tan since everyone here wants whiter skin anyway.

Laurens Tolenaars – Photo by Filbert Kung

LAURENS TOLENAARS
Pinoy + Dutch
Although I was born and raised in Europe, my mom always made sure that I don’t forget my Filipino roots. She used to bring me and my brothers to Manila every year for vacation to see our family and experience a different lifestyle and culture. I consider myself European because of the environment where I grew up but I always felt that my heart belonged to the Philippines and I knew from a very young age that I wanted to live there. My mom and I have always been told that we are very similar, not only physically but especially in terms of personality and because of that I could adapt myself to the culture and lifestyle of the Philippines very quickly. I’ve been living in the Philippines for about 2 years now and I have been really satisfied about my life here. I honestly think that the education I had from my mom helped me reach my expectations and blend into the Filipino culture.

February 24, 2014
Filipino USA: My Pinoy Life in Houston, Texas

Filipino USA: My Pinoy Life in Houston, Texas

SOCORRO PASCO

I have been living here in Houston since 1983. We moved here from Silay City, Negros to join my mother who was working as a nurse here.

I love Houston; it’s a beautiful city, the fourth largest city in the US and covers an area of over 50 miles. There are over 4 million people living here. It is also known for having the largest medical center in the world, thus, the majority of Filipinos who came here in the ‘70s and ‘80s were either nurses or doctors.

Houston is also known to be an oil and gas capital, for health care, and arts. It has the ballet, opera, the largest arts and cultural district outside of New York City and is a thriving center for ballet and opera. It also has the largest concentration of engineers and researchers in the medical fields. Of course, Houston is also known for great barbecue.

And most of all, we have the largest concentration of astronauts because of NASA. (Remember the famous line in Apollo 13? “Houston, we have a problem”. – Ed.)

Photo by Marylou Sy

I make my living as a therapist but I’m also a poet. My poetry book, “In the Silence of Dreaming and Selected Poems” is currently on Amazon.

I practice yoga and meditation everyday.

Adapting and assimilating: Houstonian and Visayan

The Filipino community in Houston is one of the largest next to Los Angeles. There are a lot of Filipino associations divided by islands. I belong to the Visayan Association of Houston.

Then, we have other islands and their associations.

It’s difficult to determine what cultural practices I have acquired here since I’m both Houstonian and Visayan. The two cultures are so deeply integrated and inter-wowen. I do enjoy the cuisine here which rivals that of any where else in the world. Houston reminds me a lot of Silay because of the friendliness of the people as well as the diversity of the cultures present here.

It is a multicultural melting pot. So when I am asked what practices I have acquired, it is difficult to answer because I belong to both. It is hard to separate due to the seamless identity of American vs. Filipino.

For example, I feel that living here one can acquire a multicultural identity and perspective. We go to the rodeo and watch Bruno Mars and then go to the Asia Society to hear sufi music and then go to the local Filipino restaurant and sing karaoke.

I guess I’m like a lot of other Filipinos in that sense. Even though we are all over the world, in our various countries, the beauty of the Philippines and our culture are always within us.

May 26, 2013
It’s What I Do

Sheila Baldago

Sheila Baldago Tobias

Being part of the biggest events in town and rubbing elbows with corporate and media head honchos seems like a glamorous job, but Sheila Baldago-Tobias says public relations (PR) is hard work.

Describing herself as having the “memory of a goldfish”, Sheila shares that she starts the day by making a to-do list to make sure she doesn’t forget anything. With her work at PR ASDA’A Burson-Marsteller dependent on the client’s requirements and the various simultaneous events, each working day could vary from developing PR strategies to arranging gifts. This par for the course and Sheila welcomes it, “This is what fuels my engine – the randomness of what PR brings.”

And getting into public relations wasn’t a smooth ride either.

When she was still a newbie in Dubai, she applied for an administrative job but was recommended for a barista role instead. While finding nothing wrong with that, she felt that her capabilities were underestimated. “I knew I could do more so I took that as a challenge,” says Sheila. After that interview, she got a job at her current workplace and has been developing her skills since then.

Knowing that there is no such thing as an easy ride to success, she advises fellow Filipinos, “When you dream, dream big. You have to believe in yourself, work for it and everything else will follow.”

Sheila and Asdaa girls with Giorgio Armani

Lloyd dela Cruz Santos

Lloyd dela Cruz Santos

Passion for teaching pushed Lloyd dela Cruz Santos to become an effective facilitator for an airline company. His job involves delivering effective sales training to corporate salespeople, graduate managers and newly hired employees.

While training is a major part of his job, Lloyd says the bigger responsibility to make sure his trainees are equipped with information to excel in their individual roles.

He remembers that during his early years in the industry, he was received recognition from the country manager of Vietnam. “He was pretty amazed that my previous experience is totally different from my current role and he even asked my senior manager if I can also deliver the course to his team in Ho Chi Minh City.”

Lloyd has been in the airline industry for over 10 years and still enjoys his job. “Dealing with people from different parts of the world has been a rewarding experience.” The travel and being exposed to different cultures is also a definite bonus.

On the downside though, he is away from his family in the Philippines. But he says that Filipinos are family-oriented and that is what leads them to work abroad. With this, he advises fellow OFWs to keep contact with their loves ones and make ways to be part of their lives. “Distance should never be a hindrance to express our feelings for them.”

Jesse Marcelo Posis

Jesse Marcelo Posis
Reinvention defines Jesse Marcelo Posis’ career. Formerly a dance choreographer, he is now an human resources manager, aside from being a fitness professional instructor and part-time singer.

Jesse shares that he once met a carpenter who is now a pilot, who inspired the shift in his career. Now, as an HR manager, he handles 450 people in five different multinational companies, the recruitment process and all other HR activities.

He says her secret to change career paths is challenging himself to do things beyond his ability. “The strength to decide on which direction you take in your life allows you to reinvent yourself to change your future,” Jesse says.

Moreover, he believes that you need courage to change to achieve success. “Change is the result of true learning, you have the power to change your life. Kung sa tingin mo na hindi mo pa na aabot ang potential mo, [if you think you haven’t reached your full potential yet] then don’t stop trying to reach for it.”

May 5, 2013
It’s What I Do

Mylene Escano

Mylene Escano

Head of Abu Dhabi Sports Programming

Abu Dhabi Media (Abu Dhabi TV)

I am in charge of a variety of areas including sports programming acquisition for free-to-air and PayTV channels, 9 channels all in all. I also cover sublicensing, conduct short and long term planning, onsite coverage operations, draft channel budget/strategies and maintain other standard policies & protocol for sports programming.

My work involves traveling and maintaining good relationship with international “sports” suppliers and being part of sports market trade shows in Europe, Asia and America. I also deal with local sports institutions/ federations in the United Arab Emirates and other GCC countries.

My typical day is BUSY! I wake up to see the sunrise but seldom have a glimpse of the sunset. My day starts with an espresso and scribbling in my notebook what needs to be done for the day. I enjoy my drive to work and then spend a good amount of time at my desk solving matters for the day. In between, I am usually called in for a meeting and then I rush from one meeting to another, sometimes within ADM and sometimes outdoor meetings with clients. My job is pretty diverse in that it covers buying programmes to getting into the nitty-gritty of operations and in between handling top prestigious sports events in Abu Dhabi.

I’m a workaholic and have mastered the art of multi-tasking, thanks to my +20 years experience in media and setting up of new channels. Every job is a new challenge that once accomplished gives a deep feeling of pride and achievement. I find myself, on occasion, being a consultant-on-the-job when I share my expertise and knowledge the different aspects of the business and business operations.

HH Mohammed Bin Zayed Al Nahyan greets Jiu Jitsu athletes with Abu Dhabi TV Head of Sports Programming Mylene Escano

My schedule at work is busy due to the nature of my job, I work with people from around the globe and have keep up with different time zones. I try to clear off my emails by responding to each one as soon as I receive them, irrespective of the time of receipt. I sometimes find myself replying back at odd times even as my day at work ends.

Job perks

It was last year when I was chosen to be part of the Jui Jitsu & Abu Dhabi Int’l Sports Exhibition committee. It was indeed a great honor when the ruler of Abu Dhabi invited me and I was congratulated as part of the team in his palace! That was the year that I will never forget!

There’s always a formula to become a successful person at work:

Stay humble: Even though hot topics/ issues na ang dinisdcuss nyo sa work you still need to compose yourself. Never raise your voice and you will get your boss ‘s attention by explaining the root cause of the issue. Never argue! Admit to yourself that you cannot win every argument and that’s okay.

Honesty: this is the main foundation of trust at work. Once it is established then you will be on top of everything.

Lastly, hard work, work without limits!

Anthony dela Cruz

Anthony Dela Cruz

Visual Consultant

Marina Mall Abu Dhabi
In summary, I am responsible for the image, look and feel of the Marina Mall, Abu Dhabi. My responsibilities include the review and approval of retail store planning and design, specialty leasing spaces and common areas. All this is to meet the objective of ensuring the best shopping environment for customers and visitors. I work closely with mall tenants and brand principals like Prada, Gucci, Burberry to Zara, Reiss, Next, Esprit, to name a few on design development and storefront application.

Early Bird

My alarm goes off at 5:45am and I tune to FashionTV while I get ready for work. I am in the car by 6:30am, heading to Abu Dhabi. Working 9 ½ hours, plus a 3-hour road trip eats up most of my day. But when I think about how design meetings, project site inspection and correspondence are all part of this, I get a better perspective of my day as fulfilling.

One of my more-than-usual-interesting-days was a surprise visit at work when I escorted the Honorable Jejomar Binay, Vice President of the Philippines, back in 2011. Being awarded ‘Best Mall Decor’ in 2005 awarded by Sheikh Mohammad Al Maktoum, Vice President of UAE and the Ruler of Dubai was undoubtedly one of the highlights of my career.

Secret to success

To dream big is a basic tenet in life. Dreams and visions contain a special, exciting quality that stimulates us to do and be better than you have ever been before. He also says that the very act of allowing ourselves to dream big raises our self-esteem and elevates our self-worth, self-confidence and self-respect. It doesn’t matter what I believe in, it only matters what I can prove.

Loli Cremat

Loli Cremat, CPA

Certified Public Accountant

Cashuk, Wiseman, Goldberg, Birnbaum & Salem, LLP

I am Certified Public Accountant (CPA) in California, USA and currently a partner in a local public accounting firm in San Diego. I prepare tax returns for individuals and businesses. I also conduct financial audits of businesses in different industries, but with a concentration in mortgage and escrow businesses, 401(k) plans and non-profit organizations.

My work requires me to travel a lot since I service clients in 26 US states my firm has a license to operate in. My job does not only allow me to see the different cities of the United States, it also provides me the opportunity to meet people from different cultures.

Peak season

During busy tax season (February to April 15th), I normally work 12 hours a day, six days a week. If not at the airport, waiting for my flight, a typical day for me would be sitting in my office early in the morning before the sun rises and leaving work when the sun has set. Any CPA in public accounting would agree that this profession entails a lot of work and putting in a lot of hours. Traveling frequently can be exhausting, but I still enjoy it after doing it for more than 8 years now. I have to say, I enjoy the fast-paced life. Fortunately, I am able to sustain such a busy career with the help, understanding and support of my family.

Over the years, I have also built relationships with clients. Many of them I have become friends with. These relationships have yielded client referrals, which I get most of my business from.

Hard work is the secret of success

If there were a story I could like to share to inspire my fellow Filipinos, it would be how I overcame all the hardships and struggles in trying to excel in a foreign country.

My family and I moved to the United States in 2002. I had been working for one of the biggest banks in the Philippines for 10 years, when my husband and I decided to leave the country and start a new life in the U.S. It was a difficult decision to make as I had already established a career as a CPA/Internal Audit Manager at that time. I was already comfortable where I was, but the opportunity was so great to pass up.

Loli Cremat with Partners at Cashuk, Wiseman, Goldberg, Birnbaum & Salem public accounting firm

When we came to the States, I didn’t plan on pursuing my accounting career. However, the opportunity presented itself when I got a job at Filipino-owned CPA firm. After working for just a few months, I was encouraged to pursue becoming a CPA. I remember the review course and the exam fees being costly and at the time and I wasn’t making enough to afford them. After giving it some thought, my husband and I decided to use our savings for the CPA exam. I reviewed for the test while working full time, sleeping four hours a day, almost everyday. I took all four parts of the exam at one sitting and passed them all the first time. The rest was history.

I started as an audit/accounting staff at my current job and became the first Asian and female partner of the firm after five years of service. To this day, I continue to work hard and strive to be better at what I do, continuously sharpening the saw to keep up with the competitive industry of accounting and the ever-changing technology.

My message to my fellow Filipinos is that there is no shortcut to success; the way is through hard work, hard work and hard work. Building a reputation for good work ethic takes time but when earned, will take you a long way.

I wish all the best to the Filipino OFW’s. Hats off to you guys!

February 24, 2013
It’s What I Do – Gavier Carpio & Ian Borromeo

Gavier Carpio

New Business Adviser (Banking)

Dubai

I work as a new business adviser in an international financial institution. I assist customers with setting up their account both locally and offshore and provide them with appropriate advice about different banking products based on their needs.

The job may sound simple but it entails a lot of responsibilities in terms of managing customer expectations and ensuring their satisfaction, winning customer’s loyalty. At the same time, everything is in line with regulatory policies set forth by UAE Central Bank and other international bodies.

I’ve had this job for over four years and it has given me the chance to showcase both to customers and colleagues that Filipinos are trustworthy and very reliable. By doing my job properly in an organized manner and by being polite and professional, I have somehow contributed to my employer by growing their network of customers.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that you should never underestimate the fruit of hard work. There was a time when my job was in peril due to a new company strategy to minimize our international presence. This was been made known publicly and most of the customers asked how it would affect the existing staff members. I was humbled and truly overwhelmed with the support I received not just from my colleagues but also from very kindhearted, concerned and sincere customers. I received recommendations from them to get interviews at different companies.

Although I was still able to keep my job, the support, assistance and just the mere offer of their help assured me that I was doing something right. Their support really touched my heart and made me gain more friends who I know are truly respectful of what I do and of who I am.

All of us can be successful in any little given way. Success has many definitions based on what an individual aims for. Always aim for something within reach and once achieved, aim for something higher. With all our inherent politeness, professionalism, resourcefulness and love for everything we do, there’s no denying that Filipinos can always shine bright, if not the brightest, in whatever they choose to do. It’s just always a matter of pouring our heart out and doing the best that we can. All the best to all the Filipinos in UAE and may God bless us all always.

Ian Borromeo

PR & Marketing Executive

Aviareps – Dubai, UAE

I work for one of the most illustrious tourism agencies, not only here in the Middle East but across the globe. I’m the youngest member of this humongous conglomerate in the Middle East; in many ways, this job is like a dream come true and a badge of honor for me.

Indisputably, being a PR Practitioner is not an easy job. It requires a lot of patience, determination and passion for you to succeed, which I am proud to have. Nevertheless, it is also a very rewarding job as it gives me a lot of travel opportunities and the chance to meet high-profile people and media personalities.

The clients I handle on my own as their exclusive publicist in the Middle East include the Mandarin Oriental Hotel Group and Onyx Hospitality Group. I also coordinate with media to discuss tie-ups and features and coordinate press trips.

Last year, Dubai won the Office of the Year Award from 38 international offices from different countries. I was awarded the “Employee of the Year” and as the only Filipino in our company at that time, I was proud to embody the hard work, commitment and zeal of every Filipino worker all over the world. Our General Manager who is Australian even commended me for my dedication, saying that Filipinos are the best employees he has ever had in his company.

I think my philosophy is based on something my grandmother once said. “If you are not willing to risk for the usual, you have to settle for the ordinary”, she would say and I somehow never forgot that.

Being a Filipino, who are known to many as domestic aids, I am one of the “kabayans” who wants to strive hard to change what others has stereotyped us to be. There is actually nothing wrong about being a household helper, but I believe that everyone can rise up from the sands because even skyscrapers came from gravel and dust. In this life wherein change is the only constant thing, I believe that there is a thin line between dreams and success and the only message that I hope I can send to all our “kabayans” is you can break that line, cross it.

February 9, 2013
Hello. My name is Annie B. And I am a fashionista.

Hello. My name is Annie B.

And I am a fashionista. (Applause)

For a fashionista, life in Dubai can get very intense. As in! As they say, you are what you wear. That’s why a daster is connected to a feather duster – pang-Best in Day-Off, ika nga.

One Friday, I had to petsit Coffee – my neighbor’s puppy. Wow! Paris Hilton has Tinkerbell and I have Coffee! I found the perfect outfit to hit the nearest mall – tank top, denim mini skirt, Manolo Blahnik-looking SM Parisian sandals and my faux Dior bubuyog shades. I’ll show Dubai’s high fashion crowd what I’m made of! Dizzizit, Paris B! You are the universe!

Alas! My would-be grand entrance turned into a major disaster! While entering the mall, Coffee ran fast, disappearing into the crowd. So I did what any yaya would do – chase after my alaga, in my heels and shades!

Co-ffffeeeeee!!! Co-peee!!! Koo-pe!!! I began to lose my new British accent. I checked out this Optical Shop but they said they don’t sell coffee…just sunglasses. Halleeer??? Then I tried the café – they told me to choose a flavor from their menu. Grrr….

Oh nooo…what will my neighbor say? Must find that doggy now… but wait – Mango has a Sale!!! Coffee must have guessed from my outfit that I’m planning to go to Mango. Aha! Finding Coffee and sale outfits in Mango – hitting two dogs with one stone! Dizzizit!!!

The shop was filled with Pinays – like hungry amazonas hunting for their japorms and killer weapons. Of course, birds with the same feathers pack together! Go kabayans – attaaaaaack!!!

Half an hour later, two blouses, one cigarette pants, and last season’s in-demand maxi-dress – all at half price, still no Coffee. I’m really in deep seat now! And thirsty. And famissed. So I hit Starbucks and ordered a Grande Mocha Props, “decapitated, without whiff cream, please.” I was almost crying – where’s Coffee? What to doooo?!!!

Then I heard barking from behind. A bunch of teenagers were playing with a puppy. Hey, it’s my Coffee!!! She quickly jumped over the table and ran towards me. I spilled my propuchino over my tank top – qebs! – Coffee is back!!! As I thanked the kids, I noticed security guards approaching. Was it my shouting? I posed like Paris Hilton. Dedma.

“Excuse me, ma’am, no pets inside the mall.”

(Dedma pa rin.) “What?”

(In thick British accent) “What the bloody hell do you mean?”

“Take your dog outside the mall now, Ma’am.”

“But she is not an askal. She’s European-bread. Her name is Coffee. And this is Starbucks! Hello, coffee? Starbucks? Halleerrrr??!!!”

But no amount of brand dropping convinced the guards that I should be sashaying down their corridors. “No pets allowed,” they slammed on my face. But what about those ‘pets’ carrying shopping bags inside? Sure, they might be fashionistas, but Coffee looks better than them!

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Annie B.’s Fashionista Guide

The Budget Fashionista

K-Mart (Karama), Carrefour and Lulu regulars. Adventurous but budget-conscious. Nothing wrong with that, just don’t get surprised to find dozens of your clones at St. Mary’s.

The True-Blue Fashionista

Signature-shoppers in Saks Fifth Avenue, Harvey Nichols and Villa Moda. High maintenance trends followers. Expect clones in places like Cavalli, Mahiki, even Spinney’s.

The Pinay Fashionista

Practical but clever, SALE regulars. Whether in Zara, Mango or Giordano – you look cool without hurting your pocket! Great finds help them blend in with Dubai’s trendy crowd. Just make sure not to sit across your clones in Acoustic Pinoy or Jules Bar.

The Kabayan Anti-Fashionista

Standard kabayan costume – oversized basketball jersey, puruntong and tsinelas topped by an April Boy Regino-esque bull cap. Perfect for a miting de avance at the barangay hall!!! But puh-leazeee!! Is this outfit appropriate in a bar inside a hotel, whether two or five stars?!!! Unless you’re ten and below, check yourself in front of the mirror before hitting the next club, honey!

Remember, you are what you wear. A faux fur jacket with a sweaty and oily face, even in the middle of December will not make you a fashionista – unless you’re headed to Ski Dubai.

December 26, 2012